The ultrasound tech found a "subcorionic collection" in the sac. My OB wants my ultrasound redone in 2 weeks to see if it's still there. The nurse said that most of the time they resolve themselves but I'm on strict pelvic rest now. No sex, no heavy lifting, no pushing, no pulling etc. She said I very well could start bleeding because of it and miscarriage is still of high concern. (Believe me when I tell you this pregnancy has gotten off to a VERY rocky start.)

Does anyone have any experience w/ this? And I need your advice. My mom is in bad shape and asked me to come over today to vacuum and do other things for her. I don't want to tell her that I'm pregnant yet because I want to keep her stress level down. I'm assuming that vacuuming is a no-no since it requires pushing/pulling and lugging around the vacuum. How do I get around this? I hate to let her down when she needs my help, especially since she was *always* there for me when I need her!

I don't know how you don't tell her at this point. If you are on pelvic rest, you don't do anything that your doc has restricted. It's a pain, but it's really, really important. I'm so sorry about the situation you are in. I hope everything resolves itself without further problems and you have a very uneventful pregnancy.

I don't have any experience with what you have, but I did have to be on pelvic rest with my second for 2 weeks. I was spotting slightly and they just didn't want me to take the chance of anything happening. Good luck.

I would definetly end up telling your mom. It is so important for your baby that you not do anything that can upset this. I dont know much about it other than most of the time it goes away as the baby grows and it "just happens". I am a firm believer in "your never given more than you can handle", just follow Dr's orders and dont do a thing! Good Luck and theres alot of support here if you need it! :D

I don't have any experience with this either, but I'm sending good thoughts your way! :hug: Maybe you could send a friend over to vacuum for you so that it still gets done!? Either way, good luck!

I have a friend, who was in an accident years ago, and has permanent nerve damage. In the last two years she's been doing some experimental surgery to relieve her permanent pain.

She had yet another surgery this past December - so far all have failed. This one is the last they can do. She was suppose to out of work until March, but she got antsy, and is here part time now, with her doctor's approval. Last week she had a set back.

My point is - do what you have to, to get through this. I don't understand my friend - I don't care what's happening - this is your health and another life at stake - and for that matter - your quality of life at stake.

I understand how you feel about your mother - but you worrying instead of your mother worrying isn't right either. I would tell your mother, and fib a bit somehow.

Take care of yourself!

PS: Time to hire a maid for both you and your mom!!

Listen to your Dr!!!! That's all I got for you. Hugs and take care. I think dirty carpet is better than the alternative. Good Luck!!!

Does that mean they found a sac but an embryo hasn't been found yet? I would listen to the doctor's if they say rest, rest. If you're not ready to tell anyone yet, just tell mom you are feeling under the weather and that you'll try to come by later. maybe there is another sister or brother that could help her out for a few days?

Does that mean they found a sac but an embryo hasn't been found yet? I would listen to the doctor's if they say rest, rest. If you're not ready to tell anyone yet, just tell mom you are feeling under the weather and that you'll try to come by later. maybe there is another sister or brother that could help her out for a few days?
There's a baby, measuring 6w2d, and a veeeeeeeeeery hard to see heartbeat of 120bpm. The tech had to have me hold my breath so she could see the little flicker on the screen and get an accurate heart rate.

I think that is a good sign then, but I would DEFINITELY listen tot he dr.'s advice. I have experience with MC, unfortunately.

I think that is a good sign then, but I would DEFINITELY listen tot he dr.'s advice. I have experience with MC, unfortunately.
I also have experience w/ miscarriage and the reason for the early ultrasound today was because my blood tests were coming back poor. The doctor wrote "threatened abortion" on the lab slip. :(

oh no.. :(

I'm sending good thoughts your way! :hug:

I also have experience w/ miscarriage and the reason for the early ultrasound today was because my blood tests were coming back poor. The doctor wrote "threatened abortion" on the lab slip. :(


Been there too. I know how scary that looks. My script had the same thing on it. Try to stay positive. Will they start you on progesterone?

Melissa - first of all, congratulations! Secondly, :hug: :hug: :hug:

I know you don't really want to tell you mom so early, especially if things have already been difficult, but I believe your mom would want to know why you can't help her right now.

I hope all works out for you and the pregnancy gets easier for you. I remember the difficulties you had when you were pregnant the first time. How is the little squirt? I don't think you've posted any recent pics of him, have you?

Please take care of yourself and your baby. I'll be saying a prayer for you guys!

Melissa - First of all, good luck - second, tell your Mom. I am sure she would want to know. Or is there any way you can get your husband to go and do the chores for her. Just tell her Gregory is cranky and you are sending dh to do it.

Try to get some rest and keep us posted.

I'm totally highjacking this thread - CONGRATS Melissa - I didn't know that you were expecting again :) I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I know you don't want to upset your mom but you MUST listen to what your doctors say. When they say STRICT bedrest, you must listen no matter how hard. Can anyone pitch in to help your mom?

Well I ended up telling my mom. I just couldn't keep it from her for various reasons. So she's all paranoid now. I've decided that TODAY I am pregnant w/ a healthy baby so TODAY I'm going to enjoy it. If tomorrow I'm delivered different news, I'll deal with it then. I just can't go through another pregnancy being nothing but paranoid.

Oh, someone asked about progesterone...I've been taking since I had my first round of bloodwork done a few weeks ago (yeah, I knew about this pregnancy reeeaallly early - they don't call me a test-aholic for nothing lol). I'm taking 400mg a day. My progesterone has been WAY UP and WAY DOWN like a rollercoaster. My hCG, didn't double at first, then it doubled and then it only went up 33% the last two draws.

I 've always found out way early too. Had to be on progesterone for over twelve weeks bc my levels were sooo low. I think you've chosen the right attitude. Glad you were able to tell your mom. Hope you can find time to rest and take care of yourself. Hang in there!

Melissa...congratulations! Sending you lots of good thoughts for a healthy pregnancy.

Congratulations on the pregnancy, Melissa! I'll keep you and your baby in my prayers. You did the right thing by telling your mother. It won't hurt to wait until the weekend to vacuum -- then your DH can do it for her, right? :)

Well I ended up telling my mom. I just couldn't keep it from her for various reasons. So she's all paranoid now. I've decided that TODAY I am pregnant w/ a healthy baby so TODAY I'm going to enjoy it. If tomorrow I'm delivered different news, I'll deal with it then. I just can't go through another pregnancy being nothing but paranoid.

I think this a great way to look at every day or else you will drive yourself nuts. I'll be thinking of you and the baby!

I agree - I know it's hard - but live in the present moment. Worrying is a waste of time, and bad for your health - easier said than done - I know from experience.

Congratulations!!