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      Just want to add that it's OK to be sad and to cry, and to generally feel vulnerable, in front of your child. We don't always have to be strong for others and while I'm sure it will be uncomfortable for you both, it's a learning moment for him. There is no shame in being sad and it's not a weakness. We are all just human. I also think it is OK to backtrack and be honest, though then you might have to have the conversation about lying and when it's OK and when it's not.

      There may be some pet loss grief counseling groups in your area if you feel that might help you. Our local 24 hour e-vet holds them at no cost. I am wondering if some place like that might help you with not only your grief but helping your child process the loss of your dog.

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      He brought up Jules again today. I told him that Jules isn't coming back to which he asks why not. I said, "Because Jules is not alive anymore." My son says, "But he's my friend... I'm gonna miss him." OMG My heart is breaking. Just when I thought I was out of tears...

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      It has always been so hard after losing a dog without having a 3 year old around to ask where (s)he is, sometimes the loss can still hit months later. It is still very fresh for all of you and it's painful. At least now he knows not to expect Jules to return. I'm sure that was hard to tell him.

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      Quote Originally Posted by smartrock View Post
      It has always been so hard after losing a dog without having a 3 year old around to ask where (s)he is, sometimes the loss can still hit months later. It is still very fresh for all of you and it's painful. At least now he knows not to expect Jules to return. I'm sure that was hard to tell him.
      Thanks. I couldn't even say the "d" word. I had so say "not alive"


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      Quote Originally Posted by smartrock View Post
      It has always been so hard after losing a dog without having a 3 year old around to ask where (s)he is, sometimes the loss can still hit months later. It is still very fresh for all of you and it's painful. At least now he knows not to expect Jules to return. I'm sure that was hard to tell him.
      It IS hard but I think you did the right thing for both you and your son.
      And yes it hurts to lose a pet, even after 4 yrs I still can't look at a big black mix breed dog and not think of my Wilma who passed away. Shoot I even cried the other day while at petsmart, they had a dog that looked just like her.

      Hugs to you both!!!

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      Grief counseling was brought up. Our local E-vet does have a group that meets and it's a great support. Maybe your vet knows of a group, or the local E-vet. I would call ahead to ask about bringing a child or maybe they can counsel you on how to help your child.
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