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    What would you do about the pitbull?

    (Please know I'm not by any means bashing all pitbulls)

    My dog was recently attacked by a pitbull and had to have surgery and everything. Anyways my parents also have a pitbull who I'm not fond of. She's also attacked other dogs and I've been told it was all over food (irrelevant if you ask me). I've always been weary of her and have never brought my dog around and if I'm there with my infant I keep her away. The dog also grabbed food out of a 2 year olds hand and nearly pierced her skin. And After this attack on my dog by another pitbull I do not want to be around my parents dog at all. Nothing about it feels safe and seeing first hand their power makes me petrified and even more so with the dogs track record.

    Today I asked them to put the go upstairs while we came into the house to change (having an outside cookout) and then she could roam the whole house while we were outside. One of them at first was okay with it then the other texted me and said he's sorry what I went through but it wasn't their dog. I feel like they just don't get it. The dog in my opinion is unsafe and therefore unpredictable.

    I let them know, nicely of course, that I just couldn't come over because I feel unsafe. They wouldn't lock the dog up. I let them know that of course they were welcome at my house anytime and their response? "You have to lock up your dog". Seriously? If they weren't my parents I would have essentially told them to F-off. I couldn't believe it. My dog wouldn't and has never shown any signs of aggression or anything like that.

    What would you do? How would you handle the situation?


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    My dog was attacked pt. 3 please help (with pictures)

    Riley was attacked UPDATE

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    They set the rules at their house. You set the rules at your house. The best bet on your part is to let them know what your rules are and they can decide whether or not they want to come over. My concern would be that the dog is not trained if it's taking food from a two year old. Clearly they think that you are overreacting. You don't think that you are and have to protect your dog. That's perfectly legitimate. Lay it out for them. They'll listen or they won't. Just be prepared for them not to come over. My parents don't because I set boundaries and that's perfectly fine with me but you may feel differently.

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    Im pet sitting my nephews pit bull service dog...its super gentle, well trained and a beautiful thoughtful pet...my other nephew has a street blue pit that isnt so nice to my dog, but a loving pet to my nephew...its case by case.
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    Quote Originally Posted by janedoe View Post
    They set the rules at their house. You set the rules at your house. The best bet on your part is to let them know what your rules are and they can decide whether or not they want to come over. My concern would be that the dog is not trained if it's taking food from a two year old. Clearly they think that you are overreacting. You don't think that you are and have to protect your dog. That's perfectly legitimate. Lay it out for them. They'll listen or they won't. Just be prepared for them not to come over. My parents don't because I set boundaries and that's perfectly fine with me but you may feel differently.
    This...totally!

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    This is almost more sad than the attack on Riley. You have an infant and your parents are not sympathetic to your worry about their dog even though it was a different dog that attacked Riley? Not to mention their grandchild? Very, very sad. I know it's their house their rules but this is sad.

    Biting over food is fairly easily curbed, no food for the dogs when they are together. With small children that's hard to manage.

    There is a similar worry in my family. The nephew whose new wife has an unstable dog now has a baby. She undertook extensive "baby coming" training with this dog before the baby arrived but none of us trust it. It's bitten several. She left it at home for a recent barbeque. We watch my dog and my sister's (Nana to the baby and a four year old) dog carefully. Mine is a big clumsy goof and might knock a child down the stairs. Nana's dog is protective of the four yea old and might bite my dog to tell him away from the child. And get the child by mistake. The children come first.

    I don't know what I'd do. I do always ask if my dog is part of the invite when we go somewhere but when it's the house we are visiting, what can I do? Besides not go. Hard. We now have four inside cats and one friend is allergic. We can't put the cats outside and there is cat dander and hair no matter how thoroughly we clean, even if we put them away in a room she'd still react. She hasn't been for a visit or meal in a long time.
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    It is so sad that they will not take into account your fears and the safety of children.

    I have had friends say it is my house my dogs are not being put away while we would visit. We used to go and visit but their intact male would go after Coleman, he would actually sit and stare at him, which is a big no no in my book. My boy was older had bad hips and knees and wasn't doing anything to provoke. I said no more and stopped going with the dogs and it did put a strain on our friendship. I also have cats and friends with allergies that come from VA to visit. I put my cats into their room for the time they are here and scrub as much down as I can, I know there is cat dander still but it is bearable for her with her allergy meds.

    I have also put up my dogs when certain people come to visit me, if I know they are really uncomfortable with my kids either just are not dog people or have been bitten in the past mine go out of the room.

    Personally I would let them know that until they get a handle on their dog either training or putting her up while you visit you will not come inside, that is just an accident waiting to happen. Especially since she has already taken food from a child. As far as them coming to your house that would depend on them entirely, as long as your pup is mannered in not jumping etc he would be out for their visit.
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    If it was just that you were worried about Riley, then I would say leave him home if you go visit, but if it’s also your child, then that’s a very different story. I almost never bring my dogs places when we visit, and I prefer that friends don’t bring their dogs either (although it has happened on occasion). Just too many possibilities for trouble, and even if the dogs generally get along, if they don’t know each other well, I feel like I’m always being vigilant and watching the interactions so can’t relax and enjoy the event.

    I guess it depends on weighing the risk to your child versus ruining your relationship with your parents. If you really feel the dog is a threat, then don’ t go there and don’t allow them to bring their dog to you. As for them insisting you lock up Riley when they come, that is petty, but up to you if you want to just do it now and then to maintain the relationship or risk a complete break with them. One would think they’d value seeing their grandchild enough they would come around, but it’s a risk you take ...
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    What would you do about the pitbull?

    My parents have no issue with Riley. They are only saying to lock him up because I won't go to their house without their dog locked up. I have never brought Riley to their house because their dog is aggressive. My father is also the type that if he doesn't understand something or doesn't agree with you you are automatically wrong and you make no sense. And he has quite the attitude about it.

    Before the pitbull bit Riley my parents pitbull and the pitbull that bit Riley met at a neutral area walking and my parents pitbull tried to attack the pitbull that attacked Riley.

    Their pitbull has bitten other dogs more than once (I'm not sure exactly how many times at least 3 that I know of) and did not grow up (I think she's 4) around children younger than 14. She isn't very well trained, she jumps on counters, takes foot, jumps on tables, doesn't come when called, barks no stop, etc. but she does tricks. Ha.

    My only logical option if they won't keep her inside or away from where we are is to not go. It's not ideal since I want them to be able to have a good relationship with my baby but they can come to my house anytime.


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    I used to go to my aunt and uncle who had two rottweiler's that had been trained to kill. These dogs were always locked outside while people came to visit. One day the dogs tried to come through a glass door to get at the kids. My uncle built a large Gated area for them were they could no longer see through the glass. My point is trained or untrained aggression is unpredictable. Do what ever it takes to keep you and your family safe.

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    This one to me is simple. Someone else posted it. It's your house your rules, their house their rules. I would not invite their pitbull into your house. If they are not willing to put their pit bull into a secluded room, I would not bring your pup. IF you are like me and do not go anywhere without your dog, it may come down to not visiting. That's sad since they are your parents. For me, my brother in law does not allow dogs in the house (cattle farmer- old odd mentality :-) ). So, I refuse to go visit because after working all week, I'm not leaving my pups at home. They have no problems with dogs so they come over to see me. They come over on Thanksgiving and Christmas too. They have farm dogs that live outside (they have heated shelters) and love running the land. Blue heelers. I would drive over every other weekend to visit them if they would allow me to bring my pups in. Since they don't, I don't visit. Difficult choice but my pups are my boys.
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