I also misunderstood the amount of time you spent with your dogs. Please don't be angry, Tanya is only trying to help, she may be blunt sometimes but the amount of rescue work and damaged dogs she has rehabilitated may have a bit to do with that. As much as she, and I, may have misunderstood the amount of time you are with your dogs daily you are unaware of what she sees on a regular basis and the amount of time she devotes to rescue and rehabilitation.
This is a great forum, full of knowledgeable members and everyone does their best to help and support anyone that comes here. There are people that get Labs, and many other dogs, and put them in the backyard where they live their entire lives with little human interaction. It does happen and it is a touchy subject here. We all love our dogs and what happened to your dogs is heartbreaking.