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GlennBaxterFam · 11-03-2009, 02:13 PM

Thank you all for the prayers, we desperately need them!

My sister is a complete mess and due to the media I have my 5 year old niece with me. At this time they are not releasing the information BUT someone who claimed to be family posted on the internet "newspaper" John and my sister's first and last names.

The therapist and victim advocate said to let my niece talk but not to ask her any questions. To just validate her feelings, reassure her that she is safe and that she is loved.

Listening to the things that my niece says about that night are devastating to hear and I cannot even begin to imagine being 5 years old and witnessing the things that she did.

The police officer had no choice but to do what he did. I cannot express my gratefullness to the officers and other personel that responded that night and the treatment of my niece. They handled her with compassion, smpathy and were very delicate.

The word devastated does not even begin to cover how our family is feeling right now!

lillybenny · 11-03-2009, 02:17 PM

As a daughter of a military dad and the wife of a military man, I have witnessed first hand what goes on mentally for some of these men and women coming back from war. I don't think they are given the tools they need to survive some of the things they see over there. It is true the a lot of people come back physically but not mentally,and it makes life so very hard for these men and women. While the military offers psychiatric help for the troops when they get back, a lot of times they won't take advantage of it because it looks bad on their military record and to their peers. I am so very sorry to hear of this tragedy and my heart goes out to you, his children and his wife. My prayers are with all of you. RIP, and thank you so much for your service to this country, I hope you have found the peace you need.

Baffle · 11-03-2009, 02:29 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you.....may he rest in peace.

Barb

trueby · 11-03-2009, 02:43 PM

Such a tragedy, heartfelt hugs to you and your familly during this difficult time.

Mom2Hershey · 11-03-2009, 03:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lillybenny

As a daughter of a military dad and the wife of a military man, I have witnessed first hand what goes on mentally for some of these men and women coming back from war. I don't think they are given the tools they need to survive some of the things they see over there. It is true the a lot of people come back physically but not mentally,and it makes life so very hard for these men and women. While the military offers psychiatric help for the troops when they get back, a lot of times they won't take advantage of it because it looks bad on their military record and to their peers. I am so very sorry to hear of this tragedy and my heart goes out to you, his children and his wife. My prayers are with all of you. RIP, and thank you so much for your service to this country, I hope you have found the peace you need.

I TOTALLY AGREE! Having served 12 years and have been around those who have been deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan with the Army Reserves and National Guard, these men/women are just "sent home" and told to cope in most cases. It's very sad.

To the OP, I'm so very very sorry.

GlennBaxterFam · 11-03-2009, 03:16 PM

What makes this so much harder is my sister called his CO a month ago and told him what was going on and begged for help and he told my sister "it's normal behavior for just being home from Iraq."

The could have been avoided and wasn't!!!!

Ltracher · 11-03-2009, 03:16 PM

So very sorry for the pain and loss you are feeling. Prayers to you and your family as you try to deal with this tragedy.

Rest in peace John and Thank you for serving your country.

Nelson & Pearl · 11-03-2009, 03:29 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. Don't listen to what other people say... you know better as does his friends, family and fellow soldiers. That's truly all that matters. Some people try to make themselves feel better by putting down others they don't know or couldn't begin understand. Stay strong and true to your feelings and beliefs.

Nallah06 · 11-03-2009, 03:32 PM

My thoughts & prayers are with your family.

bett · 11-03-2009, 03:34 PM

so very sorry for your tragic loss.

aday · 11-03-2009, 05:49 PM

im so sorry.... i'll be keeping you & your family in my prayers. may he rest in peace now.

shellbell · 11-03-2009, 05:58 PM

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

Mom2Hershey · 11-03-2009, 06:09 PM

His CO should be reported and investigated for negligence or failure to take action.

Tonka's Mom · 11-03-2009, 06:27 PM

I am so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to your whole family

Sinin · 11-03-2009, 06:28 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

11-03-2009, 02:13 PM	#31
GlennBaxterFam House Broken Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Shoreline, Wa. Posts: 91 My Mood:	Thank you all for the prayers, we desperately need them! My sister is a complete mess and due to the media I have my 5 year old niece with me. At this time they are not releasing the information BUT someone who claimed to be family posted on the internet "newspaper" John and my sister's first and last names. The therapist and victim advocate said to let my niece talk but not to ask her any questions. To just validate her feelings, reassure her that she is safe and that she is loved. Listening to the things that my niece says about that night are devastating to hear and I cannot even begin to imagine being 5 years old and witnessing the things that she did. The police officer had no choice but to do what he did. I cannot express my gratefullness to the officers and other personel that responded that night and the treatment of my niece. They handled her with compassion, smpathy and were very delicate. The word devastated does not even begin to cover how our family is feeling right now! __________________ You are loved, you are missed and you will NEVER be forgotten!!!!

11-03-2009, 02:17 PM	#32
lillybenny Senior Dog Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Hotter than Heck, Florida Posts: 11,759 My Mood:	As a daughter of a military dad and the wife of a military man, I have witnessed first hand what goes on mentally for some of these men and women coming back from war. I don't think they are given the tools they need to survive some of the things they see over there. It is true the a lot of people come back physically but not mentally,and it makes life so very hard for these men and women. While the military offers psychiatric help for the troops when they get back, a lot of times they won't take advantage of it because it looks bad on their military record and to their peers. I am so very sorry to hear of this tragedy and my heart goes out to you, his children and his wife. My prayers are with all of you. RIP, and thank you so much for your service to this country, I hope you have found the peace you need. __________________ Such a Cutie Patootie

11-03-2009, 02:43 PM	#34
trueby Adult Retriever Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: washington Posts: 643 My Mood:	Such a tragedy, heartfelt hugs to you and your familly during this difficult time. __________________

11-03-2009, 03:16 PM	#37
Ltracher Senior Dog Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Central Illinois Posts: 1,254 My Mood:	So very sorry for the pain and loss you are feeling. Prayers to you and your family as you try to deal with this tragedy. Rest in peace John and Thank you for serving your country. __________________ Zeke and Faith (Loved by Laura)

11-03-2009, 03:29 PM	#38
Nelson & Pearl Retriever Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Warrenton, VA Posts: 380 My Mood:	I am so sorry for your loss. Don't listen to what other people say... you know better as does his friends, family and fellow soldiers. That's truly all that matters. Some people try to make themselves feel better by putting down others they don't know or couldn't begin understand. Stay strong and true to your feelings and beliefs. __________________ Tara ~ Mommy to Nelson & Pearl... Life is Good!! http://nelson-pearl.smugmug.com/

11-03-2009, 02:29 PM	#33
Baffle Sunnie and Danny Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 6,958	My thoughts and prayers are with you.....may he rest in peace. Barb

11-03-2009, 03:32 PM	#39
Nallah06 RetrievaDiva! Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 5,352 My Mood:	My thoughts & prayers are with your family. __________________ "No matter how little money and how few possessions you own, having a dog makes you rich" - Louis Sabin Nallah Loved by Kelley RetrievaDiva Dock Dog BA PB 18'3" Check out our blog! http://retrievadiva.blogspot.com/ http://www.facebook.com/kelley.j.brickle http://www.dogster.com/dogs/558301

11-03-2009, 03:34 PM	#40
bett Senior Dog Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: baldwin long island new york Posts: 17,458 My Mood:	so very sorry for your tragic loss. __________________ betty

11-03-2009, 05:49 PM	#41
aday S&Em Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: atlanta Posts: 11,680 My Mood:	im so sorry.... i'll be keeping you & your family in my prayers. may he rest in peace now. __________________ Emma ~ Gotcha Day 1.29.08 Sarah ~ Gotcha Day 3.24.09

11-03-2009, 05:58 PM	#42
shellbell Michelle and Tux Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: near St. Louis, MO Posts: 1,541 My Mood:	I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. __________________ Tux: DOB 8/16/08 Adopted on 11/22/08

11-03-2009, 06:09 PM	#43
Mom2Hershey MomOf2Boys Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Connecticut Posts: 15,307 My Mood:	His CO should be reported and investigated for negligence or failure to take action.

11-03-2009, 06:27 PM	#44
Tonka's Mom Retriever Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: South Carolina Posts: 402 My Mood:	I am so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to your whole family __________________ Michelle and Furbabies Precious, Cian's, & Bella. I got precious 10/01/02,Cian 12/16/06,Bella 10/04/09 CIAN~Gender:MasculinePronounced:key-an Means "ancient" in Gaelic.

11-03-2009, 06:28 PM	#45
Sinin House Broken Join Date: May 2009 Location: Vancouver Posts: 61 My Mood:	I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. __________________

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