Not Listening

[voodoo]

same scenario with me except its my wife thats not on the program. I think she does it on purpose. Chili just a play baby with her. she talks to chili like a human not a dog. she has trained it to do a few things tho. go get your toy, rub your belly(he flops on his back with all fours up in the air), time for dinner(he grabs his empty bowl in mouth and gives it to her). I just let them be, he is our pet. but he wont listen to her about being on the furniture, I have to make those corrections and If I am doing something with chili, he wont leave me if she calls him. In my situation I dont see things changing. matter of fact, if I am in the room, he wont listen to anyone except me it seems.

[xracer4844]

As a man, I use the same voices when I train all dogs. Whether the dog is 200 pounds or 2 pounds. My girlfriend is the affection giver and therefore he tests her on occasion.

[beth101509]

Same thing here. Husbands are much, much harder to train than dogs. Mine uses different words all the time, reinforces bad behaviour, like say, he hugs the dog after he jumps, let's him get away with pulling. When Oban is walked by the OH it must look like he never went to any training classes at all.

I do wonder if Oliver doesn't like to walk through the smoke?

No, he goes down in the yard and my husband stays on the deck. He doesn't smoke near him and watches him from up on the deck.

[beth101509]

Yay! I am so glad that this is a common problem and not just me! Or us, rather! There are times when Oliver does something he isn't supposed to and I say "Jeremy!" and he'll look at me like he has no clue what is going on and say "what? Am I supposed to tell him something?". So annoying! Oh well, I guess as long as the dog listens to one of us...

The other day Oliver was shoving himself against my husband's legs and I told him to not let him do that. My husband was like "the dog isn't even near me" and I'm like "he is literally on your feet right now! How do you not feel a 40 pound dog sitting on your feet??".

[ZoeysMommy]

Mine certainly listen to me quicker than my husband. It reminds me of a roomful of toddlers sometimes. We will be sitting in the same room and its usually my corgi who pushes the limits. DH will say something, she kinda looks at him, ignores him, he repeats himself, she might half obey. The moment I stand up and say something she immediately stops. None of them like to get reprimanded by me. He is much softer with them than I am

Thankfully my lab will generally listen to anyone who gives her a command. She is much more easy going than my very naughty corgi. I am pretty much the only one that she listens to consistently.


Your DH just needs to be stern and consistent. Puppies are also full of antics and like pushing there limits. I have also learned to accept that there are certain things that might bother me but do not bother my DH and vice versa. We agree to disagree sometimes when it comes to the dogs. Example, DH does not mind if Zoey jumps on him so we compromised, we taught her she can jump up only with permission.

[barry581]

Same thing here. Husbands are much, much harder to train than dogs. Mine uses different words all the time, reinforces bad behaviour, like say, he hugs the dog after he jumps, let's him get away with pulling. When Oban is walked by the OH it must look like he never went to any training classes at all.

Hey!!! I resent that remark!!!! LOL!!!!!! I must be the exception that proves the rule!!!!


In all seriousness, the dogs have always been mine. My DW helps out, but I take care of 100% of the training and 90% of the care of the dogs. I have Labs because I want them, pure and simple.

[kimbersmom]

We had a similar situation, except I was the one Kimber never listened to. DH was home with her all the time and I was "in charge" on evenings and weekends. Kimber totally saw me as the substitute teacher she could test and test until I was in tears. In our case, I really didn't wan that dynamic. I knew she was going to turn in to a big, strong dog, and I wanted to be able to control her. I started using NILF practices with her, and at least once a week would take her on a hike without my husband. Things really clicked when I started taking her to training classes by myself. I would teach DH what we'd learned in class, but those sessions were "Mommy and Kimber" time that created a strong bond.