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Exactly. Not a free pass to just show up to take my dd somewhere without letting me know/asking me 1st. I am not inhibiting their relationship by expecting to be asked in advance. I appreciate that...

We have said no pop overs-back 11 yrs ago when we bought the house my husband said call 1st pls because they were showing up all the time & really annoying us. Well when he said no pop overs-they got...

Me too! And when you live an hour away you "should" schedule whether you are family or not, to a point. I'm heading out the door one day taking my dd & dogs to the park-1st great day in a while for...

lol that is the whole problem: my MIL is very VERY old school...if I said that in the nicest way possible it would be a family war. There's no way to say this to her without her getting way...

My issue is with them wanting to come & just take her without asking me 1st when I may have plans. That is my issue. I feel like they should call 1st and say hey we're thinking of blah blah...

"Now like I said earlier, it's rude for them to just come over and expect you to drop everything and let her go" this is my whole point.
She's not picking up my vibes at all I am sure, I...

Huge production??? we didn't make a huge production. At the time she went there every day while I was at work. My mil & I planned this-without her knowledge of course she was 3 1/2 at the time. I...

She was 3 1/2 when she went there every day, she is 7 1/2 now, she's just grown accustomed to her own life now with her school & friends. She does want to see them and I do take her however there's...

I don't feel it is about me at all. I feel it is rude behavior to show up & expect to take my child without asking me. Because she does have some independence ( going to friends houses and ballet...

Kimbersmom & janedoe:
thanks-yes disrespectful-which is why I am upset. My husband says not a word to her. He never would when my dd was born because he felt if he did then she'd refuse to babysit...

perfect words but even that would seriously cause a family feud. Which is why I've never said it before.
Stuck between a rock & a hard place. She just needs to understand time with us comes 1st &...

yup I do get it & can certainly appreciate it. I just wish she would more like you-not pushing her ways on me & my dd. for almost 8 years I've not been allowed freedom in motherhood without her...

no no no dont get me wrong I am not denying my child of her grandparents at all-I am simply saying that to take her to a flea market an hour away for the day is not ok, and I am willing to drive my...

Whoopsadaisy...yes it is wonderful that they love her so, but my MIL is a VERY pushy person & oversteps her bounds. I don't agree with her setting rules for my child-that is my job & her fathers job....

In order for her to have the down time I see important-then Grammy & Pop Pop need to wait is what I'm essentially saying here. Because I agree that young children shouldn't be so scheduled and...

OMG. that is just not even funny you poor poor thing!!!!!
Congratulations on your impending joy though. :)
But what in God's name would make a person ask that of you?

my goodness where to start. My MIL has been overbearing since the day I found out I was pregnant. My dd is 7 and since she's involved in ballet & cheer-leading she's busy sometimes. I try to keep a...