Divorce is a nasty nasty thing. Thank GOD, my wife and I are still tied strong and never grew apart. My son was not so lucky. We were involved more than we wanted in it and I will tell you this, retain the lawyer and KEEP him/her retained. All and every agreement that is not written is not an agreement and any wriittten agreement take to your lawyer BEFORE you sign. This will get NASTY, and then NASTIER yet. Sorry you have to deal with it.