Originally Posted by
Abulafia
Ok, Hoku.
She's lovely and perfect. So lovely and perfect and sweet and hilarious (hilarious!) and biddable and sensitive. And sensitive.
This doesn't come out so much with me, but more with my husband. A lot with my husband.
Hoku spends her days with him—she goes to work with him, and so is with him most of the day, pretty much all week days. She clearly adores him, and thinks that the sun rises and sets out of his butt. As a result—we think—she is perhaps overly sensitive to ... I don't know how to explain it.
When he applies the topical flea meds, she gets really scared, and then runs upstairs to her crate for a while, and will avoid him for a bit after that.
If he tries to examine her face (like when she bonked herself on the patio), she gets nervous and runs upstairs to her crate for a while. She doesn't get aggressive, just ... like she's ashamed that she's done something wrong. She'll later come down and be fine.
She likes to be on our bed in the morning, but won't be there if he's in the room. Apparently he once told her to get off the bed when she was up with him and our son and being 83 lbs and rambunctious. Now, she won't come on the bed if he's there. When he goes down in the morning, she comes up and will lie with me and play or snooze for another half hour or so. If she hears him coming upstairs, she hops down and goes into her crate.
Today he was telling me that her demodexis spot on her ear has cleared up (it has), but that she had a spot on her forehead (it's not demodexis, but just a little bump or something on her forehead; I'd already noticed it, and it's nothing to be concerned about. I'd touched it and there is no pain or redness; it was maybe a place where she scratched herself, and is only barely visible). When he bent down to show me, she got freaked out and ran to the other room.
To be clear: my husband is the gentlest, kindest person I know, so I know for sure he has never yelled at her or physically corrected her. I know this as much as I know anything. And she's not afraid of him—she nearly idolizes him. It's not fear; it's more like a worry that she's done something wrong. She's a bit shy w/ me this way, but it's really significant w/ my husband. Whom she clearly does not fear, and adores.
We are starting to consider asking the vet to put the flea meds on. But we really don't know what to do.
Thoughts? Just deal with it?