Vent about a friend - long.

[POPTOP]

This is your day and your wedding. She should honor your wishes. I don't get all the drama from her. Leaving the "ball in her court" about even coming is the best move. You don't need people like this especially around an already busy and sometimes stressful event.

Maybe some day, when she grows up and settles down, your friendship can resume. Until then, don't worry.

[kelsyg]

You told her you "hope she will reconsider". It's all you can do. Keep the door open.

[Maxx&Emma]

Oh my! Ditto to the great comments from others. I will never understand a "friend" that needs to cause such drama, this should be such a happy time for you. You are better off without her there. Enjoy your wedding and best wishes for a wonderful life with your husband.

[thndrkttn]

As you get older, you'll see more and more that you don't need people like that in your life. Friends are supposed to add to your life not suck the life out of you.

[Kain's Mommy]

Friends don't make your wedding about them. Its your day, she doesn't want to be a part of it, her problem. I totally get the feeling, I got married at 20. Lost a TON of friends because I could no longer be the party girl with them.

[MontananDakota]

I agree with Kimbersmom-and all of the above. I'd just move on with tings & not contact her again. What if she DOES go to the wedding and in this frame of mind now? Would you want her to bring drama to the biggest day of your life so far? Probably best to let her not be there and have a peaceful beautiful day

[Lobo]

I'd cut that loose and go on with life.

[Macy]

Time to move on. Keep your door open in case she would mature in the future- but don't count on it. Enjoy your wedding with people who love and support you.

[jjswengb]

Thank you all for your responses. I suppose I needed reassurance that it is okay to move apart from someone. Regardless of how long the friendship has been there. In the past I've always said "but we've been friends for xxx years." The great thing about getting older is the knowing that I have the ability to pick who I want to be friends with. Whereas back in my college years, and I'm sure this is true for a lot of people, the friendship circle is a lot wider. Everyone is a friend. I haven't heard from her since the blow up, but I'm hoping we can both move forward in a mature way, without any malicious stories being spread about how this all has gone down.

[ZRabbits]

Friends are supposed to add to your life not suck the life out of you.

Best advise, IMHO. You are older and wiser now, and it's OK to make that decision on who you bring into your circle. This advise also goes for family members too.

It's your life. Enjoy it. Wishing you both all the best!

KAZ