Don't know how to approch this

[ZRabbits]

Understand your friend. She's in a majorly tough spot and with the build up of negative, how can you think positive? Having a friend just to talk to can be a major help. Doesn't sound like she's getting much help from her family other than more negativity piling on her.

Be her sounding board. Yes it's negative but you don't have to take in that negativity. Everyone goes through a hard time, know it fully. Believe me, there are people who shy away from me because I lost a son. Because they don't want negativity. Thankfully I have a good friends, who will listen. Just talking helps me pull it together.

Hoping your friend finds a way to deal with all she's dealing with.

KAZ

[sheltieluver]

I don't want to be insensitive to her situations. My husband was in a bad accident last year was out of work 6 months we just bought a house. He needed rehabilitation to walk again it was very stressful and I'm sure I wast the most pleasant person to be around.

I'm talking more along the comments she makes like yesterday she was showing me pictures of graduation that a friend took and shea like I don't know why she takes so many we are all going to die then what's the point of having them. Those kinds of comments get to me.

We do go out like next weekend we are going to see Theresa Caputo in Atlantic city. We've gone to concerts and had girl nights and she will be fine then.

She does work 2 jobs and sometimes works 20 days straight. That's the part of me that has compassion for her. When I told her that it would be best if her mom didn't live there she's like I can't kick my mom out. I said until you say something to her it won't change. You don't have to kick her out just say look if you don't stop saying these to hurtful things to me then you will have to look for some place else to live bc it's ruining our relationship and I want to have one with you.

Still hasn't said anything yet.

[kelsyg]

I reread your inital post to see if I missed something, but I don't see anything going on with your friend that isn't happening to many many people around us everyday. Working hard, financial struggles and problems with her mother. Other than the death of her father which is very sad, these are the things that make up everyday life. How it is handled is what determines the quality of our lives. She doesn't want your advice. She has made choices that she is unhappy with, but is unwilling or unable to change. It is not going to get better, only worse as she is going to drive away caring people like you who aren't willing to have the joy sucked out of you at every opportunity. Sometimes friendships just run it's course.