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    Did she really just say that??

    More office stuff. So there's a fairly new employee here who in a vague way acts as if she is better than others here ( especially me since I am the office admin | mgr.)
    she is a gem to he bosses because her work is great however she says things that drive me crazy & I of course keep quiet. One was that she is not looking forward to having a baby or having to be stuck home after giving birth because she needs intellectual stimulation and cannot sit home all day with a baby doing nothing. Today it was "window lickers down the hall" when she was telling the boss that his daughters high school grades don't mean so much in comparison to the "window lickers down the hall" as long as she gets into college..blah blah blah. Can you guys please tell me-am I being too crazy |judgmental|picky |sensitive?? I happen to LOVE kids, cherished the time at home after giving birth to my dd, feel that all children deserve the right to be spoken of as human beings...omg. Is it just me or was that just wrong?

    Also-advice PLEASE on how to deal with this person until I can get out of here??!!

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    I turn a deaf ear to stupid talk like that. I have few ppl that say the damned things and I just let it go. One guy is HUGE conspiracy theroiest and comes up with some of the most absurd crap. I usually just say " you might be right" and walk away. I try to avoid him as much as possible.
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    You could try, "Not having children is your choice and I respect that. However, I would not regret a minute I've spent with my DD and continue to do so." Or something along those lines.
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    That your boss is cool with the expression "window lickers" says a lot about him/her as well as the person saying it.

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    Whenever I hear anyone go on and on about how they can't imagine having a baby because they'll be stuck at home and just need intellectual stimulation I think to myself "Huh, yeah, those first months can be a little boring, sure, but I was so tired, I can't really remember" and say out loud "You are definitely too intellectual to be a parent. Don't do it!"

    Because I am a PhD in a kind of obscure subject, I hope the point is taken. I don't think it's selfish not to have children (or to have them), but the argument that one just couldn't because a couple of months might be boring (or exhausting) really says more than enough about the person's character. Such a person should not have children. Easy. Done. I am sitting here w/ a colleague in a different but similarly obscure field (E region of the Ionosphere, specifically), and we both have children (and labradors), and we would both kill and die for our children (and, probably, labradors). So anyone who wants to tell me that they are too intellectual to have a child can kiss my sweet butt (and that of my many colleagues who have children).

    In terms of the window-licker comment: I'd never heard that term. To use it of people is simply trashy. I don't know your work, or how old she is, but such a comment sounds immature at the best, and trashy at the worst. I'm sorry you have to deal with such.
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    I had never heard that term before and after I looked it up I really hoped that your boss had never heard it before either, because if they have that is extremely inappropriate that they didn't say something to your colleague. Disrespectful and disgusting in my opinion. The other stuff, just ignore, but using a term like that, I would report to HR. That's not the kind of culture I want to have at work.
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    I guess it would be wrong to punch her in the face. Not that I'd advocate violence in any way.

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    I'd never heard of "window licker" either.

    The image that came into my mind was that of "nose art" from our dogs.

    Sounds like a person with a definite problem...good luck dealing with her.

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    I had to look it up, as well. Maybe the boss didn't know what the phrase meant but the employee surely did, it's not a phrase you'd pick at random. I wouldn't care if she did or did not want kids and I wouldn't care the reason. I have friends who decided not to have kids and that's as much their choice as anything else. It's the window licks or other derogatory phrases that I'd call her on if she continues to make comments like that. And if the boss hears and allows it, that's got to fall under hostile work environment. But, you've said it's a very small office, you want to leave anyway and have been actively looking for another position, so I guess you have to decide whether it's worth it to you to say something.

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    I thought window licker was a dog thing too. Never heard that term before but I am intellectually inferior because I enjoyed every moment of staying home with my son. I would probably just ask her to not to use that term anymore in front of me.

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